Did you ever think about how differently you viewed yourself in the past? When I was in high school I thought I was so fat at 125#. In college I was about 120# and through my 30’s and 40’s I weight 135# between having kids. At ALL of those stages I thought I was so fat. Today I WISH I was any one of those weights. I cannot even get close to 135# and I cannot believe that I thought I was fat at 125!! I joke that if that was fat then today I am obese. Naive, I suppose.
I was thinking about this when I got a Linkedin message from my ex-boyfriend two days ago.
A little backstory….
He is not just any ex but my first big infatuation that led to me wanting to be with him for many years. I was super young (14) when I met him and I lied about my age leading him to believe I was 17. He was 19. By the time he found out the truth he was smitten enough to stay in touch with me for many years but he did not formally date me until I was 18. He kept his distance and went off to college and let me grow up. Throughout my college years we stayed in touch loosely and went out on a few dates but it never materialzed to anything more than a flirty friendship. In retrospect, I think I was more in love with being in love than I was in love with him. We eventually married other people and he even came with his first wife to my wedding. Today, we catchup maybe once a year if that. He lives in Texas with his second wife and young son. But I digress…
So his message read:
I don’t remember exactly, but I think your birthday is today…
P.S. I was at a movie 2 weeks ago… and I swear you were one of the lead actresses… No joke…
I wrote back and told him that he was a week early (Jan 27) and asked him the name of the movie he saw. When people say things like this I am always so interested in seeing the actress they see me in. In the 80’s I was compared to Holly Hunter and Demi Moore in my 30’s. ( H. Hunter is a blond these days but she looked like this in the 80’s)
Well today I got a response:
At 3:35 minutes in you will see you are a close match… The title is Kidnapping, Caucasian Style…. There is English subtitles. Here is a copy on the internet:
(I linked it to the word “copy” if the web address does not work for you)
I looked it up and it’s a 1967 Soviet movie. He married a girl from one of the Russian “–stans” so I am guessing that is why he was watching this in the first place. Wow! I laughed because I really don’t see it but if he wants to view me that way then great! I won’t argue. BTW–I NEVER had that body and I am not being humble! I am being honest.
There is perception and then there is reality. I admit to having a warped perception and I think most women do. It is so hard to see ourselves gently and yet real. This can swing in the opposite direction, too. Some see themselves as normal weight when they are packing on the pounds and bursting out of their previous size. I do not know how to change one’s perception. Having very honest friends? One of my besties and I joke that we are JMG’s: Justified Mean Girls because we call it like we see it even when it makes both of us sound mean. Whatever it takes to keep me grounded.
The rates of obesity in adults across the country are vastly different, however. The website Data Visualisations created a series of maps based on data from non-profit The State of Obesity outlining differences by state.
Louisiana has the worst rate at 36.2 percent, while Colorado is the slimmest state at 20.2 percent. There is a definite regional trend to the data — nine of the top 10 states are in the South, while the slimmer states tend to be in the West or Northeast.
Every state in the nation currently has an adult obesity rate over 20 percent, while half have a rate of 30 percent or higher. In 1990, Mississippi had the highest rate at just 15 percent. Colorado was the slimmest state at that time as well, with a rate of just 6.9 percent.
There was some good news in the latest round of data. Four states — Minnesota, Montana, New York and Ohio — saw decreases in obesity rates. That’s the first time the obesity rate has declined in any state in the past decade.
Data Visualisations also broke the data down by age group. As you’d expect, the percentage of obese adults tends to increase with age, with one notable exception — rates peak in the 45-64 range, before declining in adults 65 and over.
Here are the 10 states with the highest obesity rates. You can see the full list here.
1. Louisiana: 36.2%
=2. Alabama: 35.6%
=2. Mississippi: 35.6%
=2. West Virginia: 35.6%
5. Kentucky: 34.6%
6. Arkansas: 34.5%
7. Kansas: 34.2%
8. Oklahoma: 33.9%
9. Tennessee: 33.8%
=10. Missouri: 32.4%
=10. Texas: 32.4%